Even today, female ejaculation is not often discussed, especially during menopause. In fact, some consider it to be a myth. Here we explain everything you need about it. Also, we’ll share how to prevent menopausal changes from stopping you from enjoying your sexuality to the full.
What is female ejaculation?
It occurs when fluid, other than urine, is expelled from the opening of the urethra during sexual arousal or during female orgasm. Studies have shown that the composition of this fluid is very different from lubrication (1).
It is also sometimes confused with the term “squirting”, which refers to the release of urine during arousal. Although this may be mixed with ejaculatory fluid, it is primarily bladder contents (1).
It is not known exactly how many women experience female ejaculation during intercourse. This is because it is often confused with squirting, excessive lubrication or urinary incontinence during intercourse (1).
How can female ejaculation be affected during menopause?
During perimenopause and menopause, your sex life can be affected by hormonal changes that cause vaginal dryness. This can decrease your ability to have an orgasm and, therefore, your ability to ejaculate. In addition, the tissue of the vagina often loses elasticity and strength (2).
This can cause pain during penetration. On the other hand, the decrease in hormones reduces blood circulation in the clitoris and vagina, making sexual arousal more difficult (2).
How can you improve ejaculation during menopause?
Even with all the changes that occur during menopause, there is no real impediment to stopping you from experiencing ejaculation. There is no truth to the idea that menopause is the end of a woman’s sex life.
It is very likely that, during the transition, you will need to adjust to the changes. However, there are always ways to regain sexual pleasure. Some tips to counteract the effects of hormonal changes include (3,4):
- Use hormone replacement therapy.
- Wait for your body’s hormone levels to adjust.
- Practice pelvic floor exercises. These improve the strength and tension of the muscles in your vaginal canal and pelvis.
- Sometimes, therapy can help you to relax.
Tips during intercourse to improve female ejaculation
Whether you or your partner experiences ejaculation depends a lot on the effort in stimulation and foreplay. Most experts recommend trying to stimulate the G-spot. This can be achieved with fingers or a sex toy. In addition, some tricks that may work for you are (5):
- Experiment with sex toys specifically designed to stimulate the G-spot.
- Combine clitoral stimulation with G-spot stimulation.
- Use lubricants.
Remember that not everyone enjoys G-spot stimulation. Listen to your body and remember that, above all, the important thing is that the experience is pleasurable. Positive sexual experiences help to keep you sexually active.
Finally, remember that ejaculation is not limited to heterosexual intercourse. So, no matter how you receive pleasure, you can try to achieve it. Remember that there are no limits!
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- Lynch B. How To Have an Orgasm After Menopause. Hyldalife. [Internet]. 30 de Agosto de 2022. [cited 2023 January 30]. Available from: https://www.hyldalife.com/sex/female-orgasms-in-midlife-everything-you-need-to-know/
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- National Health Service. What can cause orgasm problems in women? [Internet]. 2022 November 20. [cited 2023 January 30]. Available from: https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/what-can-cause-orgasm-problems-in-women/
- WebMD. Contributors WE. What Is a Squirting Orgasm? [Internet]. 2022 December 23. [cited 2023 January 30]. Available from: https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-squirting-orgasm