G-spot in women: how to stimulate it during the menopause

The G-spot in women can appear a mystery to many. Throughout history, different theories have been developed about its location and its importance in the female orgasm. 

However, the name should not mislead us. What we call a “spot” is actually a zone of interactions and for this reason many experts prefer to speak of a wider group of erogenous zones consisting of the clitoris, the urethra, and the vagina (CUV) ⁽¹⁾. 

The exact location of the G-spot in women is actually the anterior wall of the vagina. More precisely, about 3 centimetres from the outside. Research corroborates a greater flow of blood appears in this area in response to certain stimuli ⁽²⁾. 

The full name of the G-spot is actually “Gräfenberg spot”, as it was the gynaecologist with this surname who first described it in the 1950s. However, it was not until the 1980s that it was given its present name. The researchers Ladas, Whipple and Perry were responsible this ⁽³⁾. 

Why is the G-spot in women so important? 

The G-spot is often associated with reaching orgasm and with female ejaculation ⁽²⁾. Stimulating the area can produce the production of different fluids⁽⁴⁾. 

Being aware and understanding the entire genital anatomy will help sexual health. In fact, the correct stimulation of the area, in different ways, contributes to more pleasurable relations whether that be on your own or with someone else. 

What changes in menopause can affect orgasm? 

The menopause brings with it many changes ⁽⁵⁾. Among them, there are some that may have an impact on sex and intimacy ^(6,7): 

• Vaginal dryness: hormonal changes lead to a thinning of the inner lining of the vagina. This leads to reduced production of the glands in the area.  
• Lower libido: women going through menopause often report lower sexual desire. This may be attributed to hormonal change. It may also be due to fatigue associated with the stage or discomfort during intercourse due to lack of lubrication. 

These changes do not mean that you have to give up a full sex life.  

Tips for stimulating the G-spot in women during menopause 

There are various tips to boost sexual desire. For example, you can use erotic games or aphrodisiac foods. However, here we will focus on strategies to stimulate the G-spot in women over 40 years old: 

Helping lubrication 

In the UK, only 68% of women in the menopause see a doctor for problems with their sex life ⁽⁸⁾. And it turns out that most of them are due to dryness. Therefore, starting with vaginal lubrication is a good place to begin.  

To reach the G-spot in women, it is necessary to slide inside the vagina without causing pain. So whether it is to lubricate the penis, a partner’s fingers or a sex toy, choose suitable moisturisers. The best are those that state on the label that they are similar to natural vaginal secretions and are water based ⁽⁹⁾. 

Prefer certain sexual positions 

When it comes to heterosexual intercourse, it has been found that women who play a more active role achieve more orgasms. On the contrary, when the man is on top, they experience less pleasure ⁽¹⁰⁾. This can be related to the position of the G-spot. Hence, the following positions are good choices: 

• The hammock: the man is seated with his knees bent. The woman sits on top of him and moves in oscillation during penetration. 
• The submissive: the man is lying down and the woman sits on top of him, but with her back to him. 
• Jellyfish: the man sits cross-legged. The woman sits on top of him, contacting both torsos facing each other and bringing her heels towards his knees. 

In same-sex relations, priority should be given to oral and manual stimulation of the CUV area. Women who receive this type of stimulation tend to have more orgasms ⁽¹¹⁾. Therefore, ideal positions would be: 

• The magic hand: both women masturbate at the same time. 
• Facial sex: one of the women lies on her back, while the other lies on top, but in reverse. At the same time, each performs oral sex on the other. 

If you want to add sex toys to stimulate the G-spot in women, it is possible. Just be careful with hygiene ⁽¹²⁾. And beyond pleasure, you should always take precautions to prevent sexually transmitted infections ^(13,14). 

We encourage you to follow these tips to lead a healthy and pleasurable sex life no matter what stage you are in. 

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